MCS Students share their Day of Silence Experiences

On Friday April 15th, MCS students joined students from around the country in taking an oath of silence for the day to raise awareness about the impact of bullying and homophobic slurs on the LGBTQ community. They carried cards reading:

Please understand my reasons for not speaking today. I am participating in the Day of Silence (DOS), a national youth movement bringing attention to the silence faced by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people and their allies. My deliberate silence echoes that silence, which is caused by anti-LGBT bullying, name-calling and harassment. I believe that ending the silence is the first step toward building awareness and making a commitment to address these injustices. Think about the voices you are not hearing today. What are you going to do to end the Silence?

Students. Please share something about your experience of the Day of Silence by commenting on this blog post.

MCS Fifth Floor Students to Participate in National Day of Silence

by Kai W. & Kyle

A young woman walks down a school hallway. As she makes her way to her locker, she is whispered about, jeered at, yelled at and threatened. By the time she reaches her locker she is panicked and scared. The word dyke is written all over it. She is a target of bullying because she is being herself. But there are others like her, afraid of becoming a victim like she is. They walk on in silence.

For students all over the country, school, home and life is a battle. To come out and tell the world who they are could result in violence, bullying, homelessness and many other consequences. These students are told that they are freaks, that they are wrong, and that they are dangerous. These students are shrouded in lies and secrets and spend a lot of time in pain because they cannot explain who they are or talk about the things that are important to them without fear of ridicule. But these students haven’t done anything wrong. They aren’t weird or different. They are human beings. They are people with lives and hopes and dreams who might have to hide their identity because society won’t accept them. They are hiding because uninformed, scared people (including parents, peers, teachers and significant community members) act out against them. They are members of the LGBTQI community.

Day of Silence is a day-long nationwide event organized by the Gay, Lesbian, Straight, Education Network (GLSEN) to draw attention to the LGBTQI students who suffer through the silence and are afraid to come out and share who they really are. This Friday, April 15th, the Fifth Floor Students of Manhattan Country School will join students across the country in pledging a vow of silence for the day. Teachers will plan classes that will respect those taking the vow and students who elect not to be silent will be vocal supporters of their classmates. The silence will begin at 8:30 am and last until advisement when a representative from the New York Civil Liberties Union will come and speak to Fifth Floor students about the legal rights of LGBTQI students in schools. In keeping our mouths shut will we be speaking out on behalf of the students who cannot speak.

MCS’ participation in the Day of Silence is inspired by this year’s activism project SAFE: Schools Are For Everyone, an attempt by MCS Fifth Floor students to become more conscious of the power of our words, to raise awareness within the MCS community about how to take a stand against bullying, and to build partnerships with other New York City schools to create more safe spaces for all youth.

MCS Activists Walk Greenwich Village to learn about the History of the Gay Rights Movement

Written by Altana, Kai W, and Vaughn. Photos by Ana

On March 22nd, fifth floor activists took a walking tour through Greenwich Village, a neighborhood that celebrates and embraces the history of the gay community. We were led by a wonderful tour-guide named Tom Bernardin who took us to many places rich in history and told captivating stories of the monumental events that took place at each of those sights.

We met at Washington Square Park and began by visiting the building in which the devastating Triangle Shirtwaist Factory Fire occurred. (This wasn't directly related to our topic, but it was the week of the 100th anniversary of the fire!)

We traveled west through the Village to a little yellow building with a neon green sign. It was a small bar called Julius’. Mr. Bernardin told us the story of how on April 26th, 1966, a group of gay rights activists called the Mattachine Society, invited reporters to follow them into Julius’, where they, fully aware that it was illegal to serve homosexuals drinks, informed the bartender of their sexuality and ordered a drink. The bartender refused dramatically and the picture that was thus sparking the Human Rights Commission, which the LGBT community started to overthrow the unfair Alcohol regulation.

We walked to the Stonewall Inn where we learned of the famous riots that had taken place there. Stonewall was a gay bar that was raided many nights by suspicious police officers. One night, June 1969, the police busted in for another raid and the customers decided they had had enough. It was their bar, their home, their place of fun and freedom and so they locked the police in and refused to let them out. A riot ensued. The Gay Pride parade was born out of the Stonewall riots.

We went through a little garden and stopped in front of two statue masterpieces created by the artist George Segal. The beautiful statues, known as the Gay Liberation Monument, were made of thick white material and showed four figures. Two women sat side by side on a bench. They leaned toward each other contentedly, their hands on each other’s thighs, heads resting against one another’s like a couple. The way they were positioned made us know they were in love. Two similar figures stood next to them, this time it was two men who smiled at each other and held each other around the waist and shoulders. This pieces of art expressed love and emotion. The same statues had been made in California, where they were twice destroyed by football players in a hate crime.

In the afternoon we visited the LGBT Community Center. We learned from our tour guide that a group of teenagers collectively gathered $2 million to make the center a reality.

The Center runs an active youth program, including a summer camp, which, although it is focused on creating a safe space for LGBT youth, is free and open to all.

Something that the center was very serious about was the difference between sex and gender, saying that your sex defines the body parts that you were born with, but your gender defines what you identify yourself as (clothing style, identity preference, etc.). The center even has gender free bathrooms to address the complexity many people experience using public.

The Center also serves as a gallery space for artwork addressing LGBT related themes. Often these pieces are too provocative to be exhibited in traditional galleries.

One piece we visited was a poem that had been written about the Stone Wall riots, personifying the Stone Wall Inn as the mother.

MCS Celebrates No Name Calling Week

As the Fifth Floor begins to educate ourselves about the 2011 activism project, SAFE: Schools Are For Everyone, we have been thinking about how to expand our project to include the entire school community.

Toward that goal, the Activism Committee has initiated Manhattan Country School’s participation in No Name-Calling Week, “an annual week of educational activities aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds and providing schools with the tools and inspiration to launch an ongoing dialogue about ways to eliminate bullying in their communities”.

From January 24-28, students from the Fifth Floor will visit different classrooms and lead activities and discussion about name calling and its effects. They will focus on providing strategies for kids to use to stand up for themselves and to help others, moving from bystander to ally.

MCS students will be invited to join in the fight against bullying by signing a public pledge that will be displayed in the courtyard. We hope that this week will be a learning experience for the community and heighten awareness of the impact of our words.